There’s strength in your quiet ways.

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As the clock struck midnight, I could hear voices cheering outside, welcoming the new year. Despite being at a friends’ reunion, I chose to celebrate 2021 upstairs in my room, swaddled in comfy jammies, cuddling my dog, and watching an episode of my favorite show.

My husband came in briefly and gave me a celebratory kiss before returning outside to drink and chat with his buddies. Fortunately, nobody seemed bothered by my unusual absence from the New Year’s Eve countdown, but in case they were, I had several excuses lined up:

  1. I wasn’t feeling well;
  2. My dog was afraid of…


I’ve always failed at time blocking. When I found I was in “obliger rebellion”, I found better ways to approach my work.

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A woman in round-framed sunglasses and a striped shirt strikes a pose with her hands on her head.

Most of us looking to improve our days aren’t business moguls. It’s not like our schedules are so jam-packed that you can’t throw a needle in there. It’s not like we need help figuring out how to fill every waking hour with highly productive activities.

What we need help with is getting started and staying committed. Working on what’s meaningful. Feeling a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day.

Most of us are average. Before you get offended, you should know that being anything less than extraordinary isn’t that bad. …


Realistic routines may look boring, but they’re much better than burning out.

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Productivity isn’t something that happens overnight, just like there’s no such thing as sudden success. You probably know this already: when being productive, prioritizing tasks is just as important as letting go of things that no longer serve you. It’s a trade — because we all have the same 24 hours in a day.

Right now, I’m in a messy middle, and from this place in my life, I’m giving you my two cents on productivity because it’s raw and real. And I’m seeing results.

I’m trying to accomplish what many of you may dream of or be engaged in already: building passive income streams while balancing my health and sanity. And the obstacles I’m facing are twofold: my time is limited (as I’m still keeping my main job for a while longer), and I’ve never worked from home before. …


Especially if they’re in a relationship with the wrong person

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At the core of every insecure partner hides a scared and hurt child who believes no one will ever love them. As we grow up and become involved in romantic relationships, we forget that everything starts with self-love.

It’s easy to get lost in our feelings for another person and avoid dealing with our faults and limiting beliefs. Insecure partners aren’t “made” this way by dysfunctional relationships. Their troubles stem from their childhoods. However, they can find the space and safety inside a healthy relationship to heal and change.

Here are seven damaging beliefs that many insecure partners struggle with:

1. Insecure partners believe relationships are supposed to be hard work

I acted like an insecure partner in most of my previous relationships because I wanted to fill a hole in my soul so badly that I ignored all the red flags. In my 20’s, I believed that conflicts and gaslighting were a normal part of relationships. …


And how I managed to earn $580.78

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Happy New Year, Medium peeps. Welcome to my monthly report on how I’m doing on the platform. Also, thanks for tolerating my slightly “clickbaity” title. Medium doesn’t curate those anymore, did you know? It’s a real shame because even if we claim we hate sneaky titles, we still fall for them more often than not.

Which is why you clicked on this thing.

But I digress. You’re not here for Medium curation guidelines. You want to find out how I actually earned those $580.78, and you want me to make it quick and to the point. So here it is:

After diligently publishing at least 10 articles every month for 6 months, my older articles started earning a little bit more money each month. I made $80.78 in December. …


How a simple time tracker can make you feel more in-tune with your work and serve as a motivational tool

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If lounging on the couch were a job description, I’d ace that position. In fact, I love being a couch potato so much that I decided to work from home so that I can merge my passion for comfiness and loungewear with an actual career such as blogging and content creation.

However, there’s a downside to fuzzy wool socks and sipping coffee by the fire. It doesn’t feel like work.

Working from home poses its unique challenges because we don’t measure it. …


I know. It feels wrong, but it doesn’t make it less true

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I feel like a privileged, spoiled human for admitting this, but it’s true: 2020 was an excellent year for me.

I’m not taking this pandemic lightly, and I’m aware that many people are suffering. Aside from living in a country with a deeply flawed healthcare system, I work in a very high-risk environment and often deal with people that “don’t believe in the virus”. People are getting sick left and right and intensive care units are at full capacity.

A once-bustling mountain resort is now going bankrupt with restaurants remaining closed and hotels barely getting any tourists. …


Don’t give up just yet.

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Two years ago I finally acted on my long time obsession to start a niche website. I signed up for an online course that outlined every single baby step I needed to take to have a successful, profitable niche blog in 24 months.

I had all the information I needed, as well as examples of members who had made it. It was proven to work. Yet, 4 months later, I gave up.

This “giving up too soon” behavior repeated itself over and over again whenever I embarked on something that didn’t have tangible, immediate results:

  • Writing
  • Losing weight
  • Saving money
  • *Insert desired habit…


Science came up with a random number and I decided to put it to the test.

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We all have that moment in our lives when we decide to get our life together. So we do an audit of everything that needs changing and figure out all the intricacies of how we’re going to make those changes happen. Except that this plan has one major flaw:

We try to change everything at once.

Nod if you’ve been doing this for years now. I get it. You’re too impatient to wait around and fix one thing at a time — that will take you ages. …


Exploring the reasons why I keep sabotaging myself

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There’s so much emotional energy around money. In my life, money was an endless source of frustration, anger, and sadness. When there wasn’t enough of it, it brought out the worst in people.

I thought I had left all that baggage behind, but it’s hard to undo decades of conditioning. Now that I’m “out of the woods” financially, so to speak, I feel like I have what Gay Hendricks would describe as an Upper Limit Problem.

“There is something important you should know about the Upper Limit Problem: when you attain higher levels of success, you often create personal dramas in your life that cloud your world with unhappiness and prevent you from enjoying your enhanced success.[…] If you make more money, your Upper Limit Problem may kick in and create a situation that causes unhappiness, ill health, or something else that blocks your enjoyment of your enhanced money supply.” …

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Adriana Sim

Writer, blogger & freelancer | Orthodontist switching career paths and figuring life out through storytelling | Follow at https://linktr.ee/Adriana_Sim

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